Have you noticed I haven’t been around much? Well, I have been dealing with a BIG problem of Gracie’s. Everyone here knows she has changed schools due to her dyslexia. I WAS dealing with that right before school started and at the beginning of school. Then hit BULLYING.
I don’t know how many of you have been through bullying with your kids, but it not only hurts your kids but it tears the parents apart. It hurts to see your kids hurting. It started this way- Gracie is 15 and not allowed to date yet. We did allow her to “date” at Church, which meant she could sit by the boy and hold hands. I don’t understand how that means your dating, but there is a lot of things I don’t understand I’ve come to find out.
Well, Gracie found out (and was sent pictures) that Sean was holding her hand at Church but really having a GOOD time with Meagan on weekends (if you can imagine what I’m talking about). Gracie told him at school that she broke up with him and to go away. I don’t blame her one bit.
Well, these two (Sean & Meagan) would yell at her down the hall at school. Gracie would ignore them. When they saw that wasn’t going to work, they started sending her ALL kinds of facebook messages and they were not pretty at all. They were nasty. We blocked them. They found her on instagram and left the most AWFUL messages you can imagine. Calling her every name in book, stated they were going to physically harm her and even went as far to say that I should have kept my legs closed the night she was conceived.
The school could only do something about 3 of the messages because that was all that was sent during school hours. Do you know what their punishment was? A talking to. Can you believe that? They got a talking to. My daughter has class with Meagan and has had to move to the back of the class even though she has a form of dyslexia that requires her to sit in front of the class. BUT… since Megan sits up front, GRACIE has to move. Gracie is being the one punished.
I told her youth leader, that Gracie couldn’t come to class if she was going to be bullied. Well, I waited for the bus to unload, Sean didn’t get off. They said Sean wasn’t inside the Church, so I allowed her to go to her Youth group. I met her youth leader and she said, “What are you doing here?” I said, I made sure that Sean wasn’t here, so it’s ok if Gracie comes. She said, I didn’t think she was coming. So, I back up my Challenger (quite quickly- because it goes quite quickly) and go straight to the youth and say “Let’s go”. Her youth leader, says she can stay. I said, what if Sean shows up one night, she said, “I think a talk from an elder and an apology would do it”. I said, you really think that a talk from an elder is going to STOP HIM? So, she can’t go to her youth group. Again, she is being punished.
I did file a police report and the police haven’t made time to go up to the school yet. I’m going again tomorrow to ask them again to go even though they were supposed to go Friday. Guys, I have talked to government agencies that you would not believe, because I know A LOT more than most do about some of the boy’s situation.
Anyway, it looks as though the one being bullied will be the one punished. The bully will get away with it every time. Thanks Sean Miller and Megan Staggs for really messing up Gracie’s first year at GCT and messing up her ability to be apart of her youth group. Although, she has found out who her real friends are. I’m in full Mama Bear Mom!